i just cannot get over him.. i donot know why. I really don’t know what it was, but I have a few questions: They hung out and he still claims they are just friend and being there for each other. He said she took it as a sign that they hes not ready yet, so she stopped talking to him. I figured I would be home in a few months but I didnt think I’d see him again. I don’t usually do this but I think I can give it a try and open up a little bit. I was depressed and devestated all summer and severely depressed. your RSS feed to my Google account. Update: at day 3 of NC he texted and said he was coming by to pick up some mail he needed. I left no room for dissatisfaction. This made him break up with me. On thanksgiving it was his birthday and our 1 year. I started dating again and after some short-lived relationships I met an amazing man who completes me in every way and with whom I now have been living with for just over 10 years. I had moved out and on. Eventually I couldn’t take it. I would say what is helping me is family not friends mine dont quite understand we are at different stages in life i guess but family and laughs and reading or getting into a good movie a comedy makes me feel okay when im home and trying to put everything in the back of my mind. but then after 2 or 3 days he calls or comes over just like nothing has happened. We have lived together for 2 years, would call me be his last name to give me indication we were committed, didn’t have to be married IMO but committed. I’m not delusional. They Are Bored. Maybe its the alcohol problem or being sober or maybe his true feelings?? BUT if you don’t give him space or leave him ALONE when he breaks up with you (make him come to you) he will pull farther away from you and you could lose him forever. The mystery man is always exciting and fun. You said it well. He now knows what he likes and doesn’t like. I have asked him for clarity before in this month. The very few times we have talked about it he says he was just unsure if he wanted to settle down and that it wasn’t about the other girl. I guess he get to know from some mutual friend that I was moved on and was happy with my new man so he wanted to destroy it and make me miserable again, just like him, and sadly he succeed. It was almost a year before he broke up with me back in August. He simply would not speak to me. I ever asked him, are you serious about this relationship and have you ever considered moving this relationship to the next level. I’ve done some things that annoyed him, and i admit that. My blood was boiling with fury!!! Why do exes always come back? Two days later he was out with his friends and his friend has a sister that constantly messages and tries to make me jealous when she is with him. if I could get him once, I can get him twice. The first few months was pure happyness until we started getting closer to each other than we started fighting because I was his first and he has never been with any girls except me but I had been with a few guys before him and he would always fight with me about my past and one day I got so tired of fighting I moved out and back home. when I think about how much he took my affections for granted – I don’t miss that. I havent seen him in about 3-4 months and I know he only recently moved. And for the 20-25% that do get back together, 50% of them will break up again permanently within six months . He wants to see you, no strings attached. And now its over and I don’t understand. which is good. But then he change it. If a man leaves you, he will come back if he feels there’s more to discover. Well, he is 24 and I am 27. This is crazy ! I dated a guy for 4 years. Why is he hanging around if there is nothing romantic, no deep conversations, no passion, no current love declarations, or even continuous friendship that we share? The first man i have ever loved was walking out of my life just like a mist that comes and go i wanted him back to show him that he changed me to show him with him am a different person,He kept saying he would not want the same thing to happen to him just like my exes i believed he still loved he though he never said but that thought made me contact Metodo the spell caster for help. Rebound relationship: The relationship that you have immediately after breaking up with your long-term girlfriend or wife. So I have been very stressed and needy as I spoke to him a lot about my problems. You are not to be supporting unemployed men. The relationship got rocky because of his family, and he became overly stressed. You deserve much more than that. I also feel like a fool. I have been very stressed with university moving in and my course is very intense. I am left so sad and speechless since I really didn’t see this coming at all. It can be really fun for your ex-boyfriend but eventually it becomes a “been there done that” situation. He also would prefer to rent (and he depends on his paycheck to help him pay his rent) instead of saving money for a house of his own. Click here for instructions on how to enable JavaScript in your browser. He won’t be interested in hanging around because he just wants to use you to comfort himself and heal from his new break up. Since I had his phone number blocked, I couldn’t read the text message. The thing is that I posted really cool pictures of my 5 year old daughter (he is not the father) learning how to skate with a friend we have in common , who was actually my guitarman for that night. This is why it bothers me. He’ll either make sure you aren’t happy with this guy or make an effort to win you back. He would keep telling me lies saying he wants to take time with me and slowly work on our relationship but he was seeing this other girl that he worked with. Maybe girls tend to do it more but I know lots of guys who were dumped and then had their ex try to come back and they said no. Thank you very much for that link. If I am able to get him back, I would want him and I to start anew. After that he didn’t leave my house for another week before he left he had decided to try it again while trying to make things better he just said it wasn’t working, he didn’t want to try and left. There are so many different aspects when it comes to being intimate and having a relationship with someone, that the chances are extremely high that they will not meet all his standards. He is still hanging on to you for sure. But I know how he is. As he left he walked down the drive way & sort of stopped & hesitated leaving & then kept walking. That’s okay tho! It broke me but I understood.. He said he’s drinking a lot more. so i asked him what is our way forward and if he wanted to be with me and why he chose to tell me now. For our visual learners, Essentially when you implement a no contact rule with the intention of getting him back you are indirectly removing your exes behavior freedom of talking to you from the equation. I was come rely crushed and heartbroken. no reply… Do you know why your boyfriend wants to break up with you? Eventually I had to work 2 jobs to keep “teaching” as a substitute. One my Kittie dying, two my brother killing himself, and three, my finally getting a steady fairly lucrative job out of teaching, and then alas, it was eliminated due to once again, the economy.. So a guy can tend to look for a female companion fast, before they are ready for a relationship. As soon as he realizes the qualities you brought to the table, he’ll start kicking himself in the ass and contact you as soon as possible with the hopes that you’ll take him back. When the relationship is over a new standard is set by default. I’m always having this internal struggle within myself. (He just turned 26, and I’m 27 turning 28). He is NOT a real man. shouldnt he know better that to talk to me..he knows I was hurt and really liked him! There still is but there was just a lot of insecurity in both our parts. He called again tried to fix things saying he didn’t want to forget me at all that he didn’t think before speaking but It was too much for me. Within 10 minutes he text to see if I wanted to go driving around with him (one of our typical activities if I don’t have my kids with me). So when a man looks for a way out, let him go. Anytime I bring it up he gets upset and defensive and refuses to talk about what happened. Thank you for your response. He hasn’t tried making contact during this time but I still want to reach out. If this is the reason why he reached out to you again, forget about him. Do you think there is any chance for us? My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago because he was upset for some things I said and hurt him. They are only jealous that you’ve moved on without them. He feels that this is his only way to make more money which i disagree. So, yes, like you, 2 days prior to me leaving, he tells me, we likely will not keep in touch once I leave. He is fun to be around. I just don’t know what to do. Hi! donate to this fantastic blog! Just as Metodo Acamu said it happened. Guys would rather go back to their comfort zone (you) before starting all over again. Find someone more solid and stable. It sounds hilarious and stupid in the same time, doesn’t it ? I’ve tried 30 days of no contact, and attempted to text him once after that but no reply. The conversation was longer this time b/c he was having a family party & was nice to tell me about it. Someone pleeease help me with this! I was on my pills and he always used protection. And the spell is totally safe like Metodo Acamu told me and the love is real because the spell only made him see how much i mean to him and how much his life revolves around April and i . Omg I have just had the same thing happen to me. I got feed up with childish immature outbursts of him saying that he doesnt know what he wants but always kept me by saying he is sorry confused and he’s trying but I came to my limit and ended it we have been together for 2yrs and 9 months very close, very open with each other, In the first 8 months he cheated 3 times with a prostitute he told me we talked about it, it was one of those misunderstandings in communication since my behaviour led him to not trust me so we moved on, but since then everything was great 9 out of ten times was amazing that tenth time was like he was on his period not knowing confused with his teenage fantasies and rock star fantasies,(doesnt know what he wants maybe there is something better out there for him etc) I got tired I broke it off, not by blaming him I was very clear that I was sorry if I pulled him into a serious relationship and im letting him go to find something better, I do love him but saying youre going to let someone go because you love them and actually doing it is the hardest thing ive done. One day I decided to ask him if they text and he said yes. The reason is simply that though there may be a legitimate reason behind his decision to end his relationship with you, it doesn’t mean that the … we were the best friends, shared so many interests and understood each other so well… I’m a complete disaster right now…. He did tell me during the argument that he can’t ever take me seriously. We were best friend in our relationship. I felt like we were both going with the flow and it just happened. He is a man through and through. A part of you may hope that your ex-boyfriend comes back to you, but you know in your heart when it is over. They’ve been in relationship mode too long that it’s tough to hop back in the field of play and land a GOOD hookup. After the trip we had more regular contact (short platonic text about every 2 weeks), dinner about every 2 months and we have also spent two nights together on separate occasions a few months apart (with the knowledge of my partner, but his wife does not know). That is best for YOU. We were very cominted in our relationship. I don’t do these things on purpose and it only happens when we argue over stupid stuff. Just after those seven day i received a parcel with something he gave me instruction on how to use. He left some of his things here so if he contacts me during NC to get it back should I still ignore him? About 5 months into the relationship he lost trust in me because I was texting a guy I had been good friends with for awhile and he didn’t want me talking to him. I mean a man who cannot spell or write properly. He blames the relationship not working out on me and says that i should had been had an apartment, car and treated him better when i always paid for everything. The friend one, puts so much effort in messaging & emailing me thru-out the day, the other one, who’s flirted w/ me, touched me on arm, & later hugged, kissed me, I’ve expressed I like him and returned & enjoyed our physical contact. I have never seen the ocean and he knows how important it is because that’s one thing I want to do before I die someday. I feel very hurt why would he do that to me again. This was however AFTER I helped him keep his house, and helped him a lot of other ways. And day by day I get happier that he is out of my life. It was the best week of my life and he said it was the best week of his life. Its not always about cheating…lying etc…some people are just scared…have baggage to go through….or plain and simple have to love themselves first. I just got so accustomed to him messaging back quickly most of the time. My wife being my wife saw this and thought there was no way out and then she felt me filed for a divorce and wanted to take all i had left. I Don’t Understand! Love is a strange thing, but being around a man you love who makes you feel insecure is BAD NEWS. I asked him and he got mad at me for saying that and told me why I don’t just shut the hell up and stop making accusations. I kind of wanted to tell him that I think I need another chance because I wasn’t really ready at that time because I was still getting over my long relationship. On June he decided to come to visit me, then I left with him to his country for holidays. I’m 40 and he’s 39. I really do not have any better advice than that. The time after a break up can be very tough for you, however, it can also be tough on your ex-boyfriend. You will be an option only and will not be worth any effort. do I give up on him and just move on? But still i was ready for a better life with him despite all this, until i cried out and a friend directed me to a man called Dr Amigo the online spell caster, with full expectation i wrote to him on his email and explain everything to him, within a period of 7days he performed a greater work, my husband is back to the real man i got married to 28years ago. We ended in good terms and he knows I love him. He can read into my lack of response for himself. And every concern i had he’ll twist it to make it seem like I’m just being controlling “as usual”. That’s an answer. But he has not responded yet. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 2.5 years. I know he have had a bad experience with his previous relationship but come on what is he doing? You never saw the ocean ? Packed up her stuff and moved out without explanation. Did you discuss marriage? I left and ofcourse he never contacted me again or tried to fight for me or show me he had started divorce proceedings. Tuesday morning I awoke to a “good morning sunshine!” text and we chatted through the day as usual. Then you send him photos with you, your child and another man. I have a lot of time, effort and money into the relationship and it’s been a month and three weeks today but I’m still in love. He told me he does not have to justify himself to me and hung up. Anyone give me any advice? Now, he is distraught over the new break up and wants some type of rebound relationship. if you need his help to get any of your problems solved just Google his name ( Prophet Iyare ) and you will get all his details you can use in contacting him. I need someone to help me. On my last day, he did not come to work. He might secretly have a thing for you. I loved him very much. I went away for a week to visit my friend and when I came back I broke the no contact rule and pretty much broke every rule because I couldn’t emotionally handle not talking to him. So why a good-looking girl I need be rejected by someone who isn’t even im my league. He needs to provide you w a home, career, college ba or master degree, car and insurance. You are young and I am sure you will find what you are looking for. This is so true. Keep it private, your own insanity… When you get it together, you will be stronger, and less willing to settle for the bull. I was so happy with him, but he was not there for me in the end. What do you think? I didn’t even ask him! Our relationship was great and we had so much fun together. I literally became a single mom for four months before Metodo Acamu a witch doctor helped me get back the man i love. During the trip we did sleep together and he again declared his undying love for me, but we both affirmed that there is no future for us and that we were never meant to be. To me it really was out of the blue, not hints were being dropped. We could not have a day without speaking, finally I fell in love. Seems like he must make up his mind or he will repeat the same routine. I had a Good relationship with my Ex. It’s been two months since the break up, and he’s still asking to go back out. But, you’re right with this as well, he will pull away again if you don’t maintain your power in the relationship. and will he come back ever? He says he wants to be with me, but he is still married but separated from his wife. By Michael Bill See all Articles by Michael Uadiale Get Updates on Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships Get Updates on Michael Uadiale This guy has ocd and he is also bipolar. I love whatever he writes. It might they are getting bored when you are not around or in … I even asked him just as a test to see what he’d say, if he would be OK with me talking the other guys. Like you Rebecca, I’ve been a WRECK too in the first month since last seeing him. Just keep an open mind about meeting someone else and don’t throw all your energy at the guy who can’t make up his mind. We haven’t talked since I broke up with him. When I was young, and sex occurred too soon (within 2 months), yeah, the guy would bail within a year. What else am I really to think !? I also talk to a very close friend of mine that helps me a lot too. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he broke up with me a few days ago. Take guy number 2 because guy number 1 might be poisonous snake like my ex was. I gave him the money to get the materials for me because it saved me a lot of expenses. This will be a very long tale if i start on how she got herself a new man off course with money and managed to make him fall for her just as i did so i will just skip that part. On weekends, he is unavailable. Feeling so insecure. Respect urself and drop him like a bad habit! I had so much fun. i will be careful next time. He was understand I had a lot to pack and my parents didn’t have room for me so it would take me a week to get my stuff out but I couldn’t sleep in the same bed as him so I packed all my stuff when he went to his mom’s and I’m staying at my parents. Because I felt as though I had such a great connection with this guy then all of a sudden he made that accusation I want more and suggested that we stop? Does that mean he didn’t love me ever? I have two guys at work, one I like, the other I don’t (see him as a friend). He said that if its meant to be then somewhere down the line we would get back together. He then had to go to England for 2 months for work. I’ve been there, done it, and am living it. Do u guys think it’s from anger and frustration and once time passes he will realize that he truly loves me ? Things progressed, we shared, we laughed we cried, we played…it was nothing short of amazing. She wanted to take my girls from me and have them rised by her lover. I cooked him dinner and took it to his house because he had spent the day helping his friend move. Though I feel as if I do that I would be intruding in his space. He will start to get irritated with other girls. When my ex boyfriend and I broke up he turned off my phone and all contact was severed. He said he will always love me A few days after the break up, I wrote him a letter appolising and asking if we could be friends (I think this was a bad idea to do this and I got no reply or anything from him). Need Your Help. I just wanted to believe that he would never do it again. Other times, he just sends you a basic text to see how you are doing and you are left wondering what he could possibly mean by it. com) did a love spell for me about 3 days ago and the results came like miracle…. YUM!!!!! I will not “front” here, I am quite perplexed. After that he decided to finish everything… he swore he isn’t dating anyone else… just that he felt awkward with me, and that he had conflicting feelings of wanting to see me but at the same time he didn’t. Not him. Did he break up with you or did you break up with him? They will chase you if in fact they are interested. We will cover some of the most common reasons why men come back months later. I want you to come live with me and just things you don’t say just to say them. He was with his ex for 9yrs on and off and cheated on her a lot. At this point we are seeing each other just about four days a week. Do you? Please. Well, I was in a relationship with my ex for about nine to ten months. Anyway girls, if you are being dumped you better forget the guy, it’s his loss and make sure to find a nice guy and let time tell your ex he was wrong. This is true as I have been staying between my home and his the past 9 months. Staring at me that he visit a doctor was 5 days after the break,... 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